A Problem Doesn’t Go Away. It Goes Somewhere Else.

Have you ever had a problem with a coworker, but you didn’t know exactly what to do about it, so you did nothing? Maybe hoping that it will just go away?

Here's what I've learned: an ignored problem doesn't dissolve. It relocates into your culture, where it shows up as side conversations, resentment, and expectations nobody's clear on.

I can’t count the number of times I thought (or hoped) ignoring a problem long enough would make it quietly disappear, or better yet, fix itself.

Why leaders ignore problems they know are there

For me, it’s usually because of one of two reasons:

1. I know what needs to be done, but I predict that it’s going to be an uncomfortable conversation that I do not want to have. (Recovering people-pleaser here)

2. I do not know what needs to be done, so I don’t spend the time and energy creating a solution or asking others for help.

Both of those actions are a version of ignoring the problem. They might seem to work in the short-term - just go about the day like that isn’t happening - but neither one solves the real issue. It can also affect your influence as a leader if you're known for ignoring problems. And, unfortunately, no magic fairy solves our problems while we sleep.

Where the problem goes instead

The problem doesn’t go away. It goes somewhere else. And that “someplace else” is often your culture, making itself at home in the worst possible place for your team and organization.

• It settles into side conversations in the hallway or private messages.

• It stays silent and morphs into frustration and resentment.

• It turns communication into unclear expectations that create confusion and wasted effort.

How each of the 5 Voices handles an unresolved problem

The same way each Voice reacts differently to the same news, each one carries an unresolved problem differently, too.

• Pioneers get impatient and push harder, sometimes bulldozing over others. 

• Creatives start imagining worst-case scenarios and future implications. 

• Guardians tighten control and focus on systems and processes to create stability. 

• Connectors feel relational tension and may over-function to keep everyone aligned. 

• Nurturers absorb stress quietly and internalize the conflict. 

The question to ask instead of "Can I ignore this?"

When you feel yourself leaning toward the thought, “Can I ignore this?” rather ask, “Where will this go if I don’t address it?”

That question alone changes everything.

Strong leadership isn’t about being conflict-free – that is not reality, but if something feels off on your team right now, it may not be a small thing to ignore. It might be traveling to someplace you don’t want to go. And the sooner you deal with it directly, the less damage it does in the background.

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